Advice for bachelors, from a married man, who has been there

[Vavutsikarios]

Twice in a couple of hours while I was logged in earlier today, two fellow players had to log out. The reason?
"My girlfriend is nagging", or even, "OMG she is going berserk!"

Dont worry fellow Sundrites! I am coming to the rescue!


IMO, there are three solutions to this problem.

Solution1.
Send your girlfriend to her mom, permanently.
This is a radical solution. I wouldnt recommend this if there are no other reason to do it.


Solution2.
Train your girlfriend in gaming.

This may work or may not (almost worked for me). It depends on a variety of things. Btw, the best game to introduce a woman to videogames in general is The Sims.

Best case scenario: You will end up playing Sundren together.

Worst case scenario: She ll get even more angry with you for wasting her time with your stupid hobby.


Solution3 – THE ULTIMATE SOLUTION

Get married with the girl.
Seriously.
It worked for me.

For the first couple of years, there wont be any significant change, but after some time, when your marriage will slowly be coming to the next stage... your investment (a marriage costs money) will pay you back tenfold.
It worked for me.

It is THAT simple:

Wife: You are in front of the computer all day.

You: What would you prefer? Me going out drinking with my buddies and who knows who else, or me staying here, INSIDE THE HOUSE, and play a PC game?

Wife: Oh honey, you are so nice, not like some other men whose wives never know where they are!

Simple and efficient.

[nickbeat]

As a married guy, I gotta say a bit more on this...

1. Make sure that your spouse is getting what they need. If they are not getting their needs met, then they will resent the game just as much as your drinking buddies.

2. Make sure that they know when you are going to be busy with your game, schedule certain hours.

3. If they don't agree to give you the time you need, then you must decide between them or a game.

Or you can find yourself an emotionally detached partner who doesn't really want to spend much time with you anyway. Then both of you can game away separately to your hearts content!

[Deathmage]

Oh, I wish, I wish. I don't even HAVE drinking buddies!

As one of the two that Vavutsikarios mentioned, I'd like to add that, to be fair, I have been spending two or three weeks on essays and essentially ignoring her; thus she would be enraged if I ignored her and gamed. Normally she tends to be reasonableish.

Sadly, she just doesn't see the appeal in RPing. "Why would you want to pretend to be someone else?" ...I guess she has a point...

[Kangleton]

There's a solution that hasn't yet been mentioned. See, a DM made my girlfriend into an NPC, and that pretty much satisfied all of my needs.

[Mako]

I need a wife. Badly.

[Lollercide]

Solution2.
Train your girlfriend in gaming.

Has completely worked for me. You are both wise as you are humorous, Mr.Alex.

[Silas North]

I tried the relationship thing before. I failed so miserably, I pretty much took a vow of celibacy right after it ended.

Not the solution for most, but it has worked for me. Not really certain if I am on the computer enough to anger a wife or girlfriend (never seemed to bother the one I had), but better safe than sorry.

[Inner Biotch]

How about when the shoe's on the other foot?

Here's a wife that plays and her husband gets ticked at the time she spends in front of the computer! It "used" to be him doing this and now it's me. He got tired and bored playing NWN, but I still love it!

So..... solutions?

Oh, and puhlease, don't say to have him join the server so his pc and mine can have a "thing"! His RP sucks big time! He prefers to PG and once he learns the map, I get (or rather, got) left in the dust as he literally runs off killing crap!

[cmosier]

My wife is the best and doesn't mind me having fun. I still help with the children, as I should, they are my children. I assist with everything around the house, for that same reason.

Less time to play is one of those things that happens as you get older I guess. I don't mind really, I love my family. If your wife, husband, or significant other wants to spend a bit more time with you, I say go for it.

Just remember, if they aren't spending time with you, who are they spending time with?