Is there a way to...

[Tratz]

Disable auto attacking? Nothing feels better then getting spawned on/zoning into an area and having your toon automatically fire an arrow into the crowd of enemies around you and being automatically pummelled by attacks of oppertunity.

Not sure if anyone else is annoyed by it, but it's killed me on several occasions.

[Anauroch]

Uh... set your PC to puppet mode. Somewhere under 'C' I think it is...
But beware... he won't do anything on his own from now.